FORGIVE OR FORGET? DINAMIKA PEMAAFAN DALAM KONTEKS BUDAYA BUGIS
Universitas Gunadarma
Indonesia
Universitas Gunadarma
Indonesia
Universitas Gunadarma
Indonesia
Abstract
Salah satu persoalan klasik di dalam masyarakat adalah friksi dan konflik. Konsekuensi dari kedua hal ini dapat diselesaikan, salah satunya melalui pemaafan. Salah satu suku yang menarik untuk ditelaah dinamikan pemaafan yang ada di dalam masyarakatnya adalah suku Bugis. Penelitian ini bertujuan untuk mengetahui faktor-faktor pemaafan pada orang Bugis. Melalui pendekatan kualitatif dengan metode fenomenologi, diperoleh tiga orang partisipan yang diperoleh melalui teknik purposive sampling. Analisis data dilakukan dengan Interpretative pheneomenological analysis. Temuan dalam penelitian ini disajikan dalam dua kategori data, yakni faktor-faktor pemaafan orang Bugis dan dinamika temuan pemaafan orang Bugis. Ditemukan empat faktor yang berperan dalam pemaafan orang Bugis, yaitu ajaran agama dan orang tua, nilai budaya, faktor relasional dan inisiasi permintaan maaf dari pelaku. Penelitian ini juga menemukan bahwa ketiga partisipan sebagai masyarakat suku Bugis merupakan orang-orang yang mudah memberi maaf namun jika yang disinggung atau disakiti adalah hal-hal yang meliputi perasaan dan harga diri mereka, maka kondisi tersebut menjadi sulit untuk dimaafkan.
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